Be Your Own Best Cheerleader: Flipping the Script on Your Inner Critic
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying things like “I’m such an idiot” or pointing out what you don’t like about your body while talking with your girlfriends, you’re not alone. Our culture almost makes it normal to bond over self-criticism. But here’s the truth: every time we speak those words, even in jest, our body and brain are listening. And it’s cringeworthy — not just to those around us, but to ourselves.
It’s time to flip the script.
The Inner Critic vs. The Inner Cheerleader
We all have an inner critic. It whispers (or shouts):
“You should be further along by now.”
“You’ll never look good in that.”
“Why did you say that? You sounded so stupid.”
But here’s the shift: what if we replaced that voice with an inner cheerleader? Someone who validates, encourages, and supports us — not just when we succeed, but especially when we’re stumbling forward.
Silent Self-Cheerleading Phrases
We don’t need to brag to others. This isn’t about boasting on social media or fishing for compliments. This is about quiet, consistent affirmations we say to ourselves, rewiring the way we see our worth. This is about turning away from external validation and turning towards our internal validation.
Try swapping these out:
Instead of: “I’m such an idiot.”
Say silently or in front of your mirror: “I’m learning and growing. Everyone makes mistakes.”Instead of: “I hate my arms.”
Say silently or in front of your mirror: “My arms are strong. They hug the people I love, they carry me through life.”Instead of: “I’ll never be enough.”
Say silently or in front of your mirror: “I am enough, right now, as I am. And I’m allowed to grow into more.”Instead of: “I should…” (fill in the blank)
Say silently or in front of your mirror: “I get to choose what matters most to me today.”
Positive Body Talk
Consider how often we casually criticize ourselves about our bodies in conversation. It’s accepted — even expected — to say: “Ugh, I hate my thighs,” or “Don’t take my picture, I look awful.”
But imagine how powerful it would be if we replaced that script with gratitude:
“These legs take me biking, walking, exploring.”
“My skin tells the story of my life.”
“My body listens to me when I care for it.”
Your body is not the enemy. It’s your home, your ally, your vehicle for every adventure, every hug, every laugh.
From the Mirror to the Camera: Why Photography Matters
One of the biggest tests of self-talk comes when we step in front of a camera. For many women, this is when the inner critic gets the loudest:
“I never look good in photos.”
“Just crop me out.”
“I hate how I look.”
This is where the right photographer can make all the difference.
I don’t just snap a flattering picture — I, as your branding photographer, empower you to see yourself the way your clients, colleagues, and loved ones already do: confident, authentic, radiant. When you choose to work with me, I understand the importance of empowerment, and I’ll guide you through wardrobe choices, camera-ready styling, and supportive direction that brings out your true essence.
The result? Branded portraits that reflect not just your outer appearance, but your inner cheerleader.
Letting Go of the “Shoulds”
The word “should” is heavy. It carries shame, obligation, and a sense that we’re always failing. Instead of letting the “shoulds” dictate our worth, we can acknowledge them — and then release them.
Replace: “I should be thinner, richer, more successful, more polished.”
With: “I am worthy as I am, and I can still pursue growth on my terms.”
Building Boldness with Self-Cheerleading
Every bold move starts with one tiny spark of belief. When your inner cheerleader says:
“You’ve got this.”
“It’s okay to try.”
“Even if you fail, you’ll learn and rise again.”
…suddenly, taking that leap feels possible. Whether it’s launching a business, speaking on stage, or finally booking that branding session — your self-esteem is the launchpad.
Final Thoughts 📸
Being your own cheerleader isn’t about arrogance. It’s about respect. It’s about refusing to let your inner critic run the show.
So the next time you catch yourself in the mirror, or hesitate in front of a camera, remind yourself: “I am enough. I am worthy. I deserve to be seen.”
✨ And if you’re ready to work with me, who will empower you to look and feel your best — and help you celebrate your brand, your body, and your brilliance — I’d love to talk.